Do you minimize your wins? Do you swallow them up right after they occur, saying something like, “well, yeah, it might have been a win, but it wasn’t as big as ______, and it could have been better, bigger”?That’s what I do. I’ll have the inner knowing in the moment that whatever it was I did (something teeny-tiny all the way up to something really huge), was AWESOME, MAGICAL, MEANINGFUL, WORTHY, ALIGNED, BREAKTHROUGH. But immediately after, I send that feeling down the trash chute… attributing that which occurred as ordinary, normal, not as good as someone else’s, uneventful, no big…
Month: May 2021
On & Off Switch versus a Dimmer Switch
Have you failed in your attempts to start a new habit or quit one that no longer serves you? Perhaps it’s because you took the dimmer switch approach, rather than using an on/off switch. Here’s what I mean. When rules for your new habit are simple, clear, easy to follow, and black and white, in spite of it seeming like it would be harder, it’s actually easier for you to manage the change in your life. This can apply to anything – alcohol, food, sleep, bedtime, wake up time, meditation, exercise, Netflix, porn, social media, etc. Anything that you want…
A short and simple mobility sequence to get unstuck in your body
Many of the people I work with don’t have a problem getting themselves to work out. Not so when it comes to stretching or mobility. And yet when it comes to being stuck in your body… lack of mobility is one of the biggest culprits. One of the best ways to shift this is to have a short mobility sequence or flow that you can go through once or twice a day. This is a video showing one of my favorite sequences! Let me know what you think when you give it a try! 👇👇
Don’t look to fix. Look FIRST to see and feel.
If you’ve got a problem in your life – a REAL problem – with a relationship, job, family member, your bank account, or even with your body… … And you’re asking yourself, “How do I fix this? What are the steps? What is the solution?” You’re starting out by asking the WRONG QUESTIONS. Have you ever noticed that you’ve been asking these questions forever, and they never lead to you getting your problem fixed? There’s a reason for that… You skipped the first step… Because it’s the hardest one… the one that makes ALL the difference. The first step is…
Fit and Healthy people are harder to kill
Fit and healthy people are harder to kill. Do you agree? When in modern history has that statement been more relevant than today? In what ways could you make yourself harder to kill? Nothing comes without a cost… what will you have to be willing to give up to make yourself more kill-proof? (Netflix? Sleeping in? Sugar, bread, pasta? Late night work/emailing?) What is your lack of fitness or health currently costing you? Ponder it… and post a comment below👇
On doing what REALLY matters to you
Are you stuck on the treadmill of life? You CAN get off. But it won’t happen by itself, on its own. You’ve got to ask yourself questions. 👉What truly matters to me? 👉What do I REALLY want? 👉What am I doing that 👉DOESN’T make me happy? 👉What’s distracting me from my life’s mission? And then you’ve got to take action. Because a good idea without action is just mental wheel-spinning. What treadmill are you on that you’d like to get off? What tricks you by sucking you into something that won’t truly make your life better? 👊 tell me about…
On quieting your mind
Want to start to declutter your mind? Meditate… even if it’s just for 5 breaths. The impact on your mind and your mental / emotional state over time will be immeasurable. Sometimes starting a practice like this is hard on your own… it was for me, anyway. The only reason I succeeded about 20 years ago was because I was doing it live, with a group of people at the then Santa Monica Zen Center. If you’d like a group to do it with, live in Facebook? Join my group at facebook.com/groups/vitalizeforfreedom We meet weekdays at 7:45am Pacific for a…
On having the courage to feel and accept ALL of your thoughts and feelings.
No one WANTS to reveal that they have ugly thoughts and feelings – those of anger, rage, repulsion, judgment, egotistical, arrogance, ungratefulness. And yet you have them. No one wants to reveal feelings of weakness… sadness, hurt, pain, despair, loneliness, apathy. And yet you have them. Feelings like these are part of what it means to be human. They’re real as real gets. And to deny their existence by squashing them, pretending they’re not there, or rising above them in what’s usually called ‘spiritual bypass’, makes it very difficult for others to feel like they can deeply know you and…
Want the truth on your side, or would you rather hide behind falsehoods?
This conversation started for me inside of an interview I watched – Tucker Carlson interviewing Jordan Peterson. It made me start thinking about all the layers of the truth. Where does it start, and where does it end? Are you in the habit of telling the truth – about everything? It can be a bit like ripping off the band-aid, and dealing directly with what’s underneath, rather than leaving the band-aid in place, covering up what’s there, and letting the wound underneath fester (I love that word, “fester”!) 🙃🙃 What has been an unintended consequence of not telling the truth…
What’s your level of willingness to be wrong?
The universe has a way of telling you when you might be wrong. When it lines things up time and time again that feel like they are punching you in the face… perhaps it’s time to consider that the way YOU are being is at cause. You don’t have to do that. You can keep on fighting, arguing, being in againstness, but it does get tiring… eventually. And at some point, you realize that it is easier, even empowering, to give someone else what they want, and to drop the againstness. Aka. admit you were wrong. Change course. Move the…
Start first with “Be…”, the “How…” comes later.
Most of us look around at our life, see things that are not working, and immediately jump to answer the question, “How do I get that?” We want the checklist, the to-do list to give us the answer to what is missing. When you’re asking How? first, it’s a sign that you’ve missed a step. The how changes depending on who you’re being… which is what’s at the root, core, base level. Who would you have to be to have the result you desire show up the way you want it to in your life? That answer will inform your…
“I’ll see you down the road.”
Saying goodbye can be tough. For me, i’s got such a definitive endpoint to it. Like, this is it. And when I really think about it, it’s also saying something to the effect of, “I might not ever see you again.” But in watching the movie Nomadland, I was left with another possibility. What if when leaving your presence, there were a knowing that I will see you again… I simply don’t know when. Whether it’s in a day, week, month, year, or in the next lifetime… there really is no such thing as an endpoint, a goodbye. Perhaps instead…