Where are you going? Why are you in such a hurry? What’s the rush? These are questions I started asking myself. I’m now over 50 and I’m seeing things a lot differently than I have in the past. The hurry-up, high-achiever mindset has served me well up until now, but it comes with costs. This mindset uses me… seduces me into thinking that in order to win in life, I must keep accumulating more: awards and accolades, money, respect from others, praise, friendships, likes, views, clients, knowledge, degrees, agreement from others, “rightness”. It has me think that the answers I…
Month: June 2021
What if you’re only halfway there?
What if you’re only halfway there? How do you know if you’re only halfway there? When is it time to turn around? How much fuel, energy, and endurance will you need for the return trip? Have you left enough energy in the tank to keep going? What if the last 5 years of your life have been in preparation for the success that’s to come in the next 5? Have you set yourself up with the nourishment, supplies, and stamina you’ll need for what’s to come? When you’re out on the trail on a very hot, long, and difficult mountain…
Replacing inner “againstness” with inner alignment
Replacing inner “againstness” with inner alignment Our world and culture is built around the concept of being right. And when you’re focused on being right, you are focused on being against anything that is not in agreement with your view of life and reality. Sometimes it even means being against life itself. And here’s the thing… that mindset NEVER creates peace or alignment. In fact, quite the opposite. ✋ ✋ Where do you see this mindset pervading your life and causing you inner strife? 🤔 🤔 Where could you use more alignment?
Negative inputs lead to a cascade of negative thoughts and feelings
GUARD THE GATE. What gate? The gate to your mind. What goes in becomes your reality. Are you paying attention to what’s going in? What is their tone, subject, and intention? Is that what you want going in there? If it’s not, put a stop to it. YOU HAVE THE POWER. Join me in a news media detox. If you’re suffering in your life in ANY way, you owe it to yourself to give it a try.
Choose what you put your attention on wisely
Where are you putting your attention? What do you choose to look at and see? Where do you allow your mind to wander? What do you allow it to think about? If you spend time watching mainstream media or reading the news it’s not a stretch to say that by doing so, you’re allowing your mind to wander about, looking at and looking for doubt, despair, insecurity, worry, fear, negativity, judgment. Because that’s what the news uses to get us to pay attention… negative news sells. 🚨 Do yourself a favor… go on a news media detox… WITH ME!
The importance of developing Self Trust
If you’re experiencing any sort of upset, worry, anxiety, fear, helplessness, or a case of the “shoulds”, there is a great chance, like 100%, that you have moved out of both self-trust and life-trust. I get it. It’s incredibly painful to feel this way… to feel stuck or trapped in whatever it is… relationship, job, family, situation with no way out. It feels like it’s never going to end, or get better. But I can tell you from experience that the answer does not lie in changing your circumstances. Nope… the real issue isn’t the situation itself… it’s in the…
Invisible Warfare
Invisible Warfare Whether you know it or not, you are an emotion collector. All the emotions you experience in your life as you go through it collect inside of you… and most of the time, with no release valve. Once you’ve accumulated enough pain, anger, frustration, irritation, or upset, you’re full… you’ve got no additional room to store any more of these negative emotions. So what happens? You become a ticking time bomb… anything can set you off… and you’ll go off on anyone for just about anything. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, colleague, someone you love, even…
Keep both eyes on the road
When you have one eye on the finish line, you only have one eye left to keep yourself on the road. As a culture, we’ve become outcome obsessed. We want an answer. We want to cross the finish line. We want the result. And we want it all NOW. We’re willing to let everyone else in the world tell us about how THEY did it. We want a shortcut, a lifehack or biohack, something that will speed up the process so that we can get more of the result more quickly. We’ve forgotten that a hack or a shortcut leaves…
Intention the chicken 🐓 vs Commitment the pig 🐷
Do you ever wonder why your spouse gets so frustrated with you when you say you’re going to do something and then you don’t do it? Most likely it’s because of the difference in the way you each interpreted what you said you were going to do. In your spouses’ mind, you saying you’d do whatever it was you were going to do was a commitment. It was action based. You could be counted upon to do it. And it would be clear at the end of the day whether or not it got done by whether or not it…
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What if you were 5% less concerned about how you’re being perceived? What would you do?
Don’t let your fear get the best of you
I’ve been seeing the pattern i have… of holding back, being stingy, afraid of the self-judgment I’d have for screwing it up or getting it wrong. So I’m live today talking about it and outing myself… and I encourage you to do the same in your own way.
The future can’t blame the present, just like the present can’t blame the past
“The future cannot blame the present, just as the present cannot blame the past.” Get out of your past… when you get stuck there, it’s depressing. AND… get out of your future… when you’re stuck there, it’s worrying! Guess what… NEITHER of these two places actually exist anywhere but in your mind. And that’s good news… because that usually means you have the power to get yourself out of a depressed or anxious (worried) state… and that’s called being empowered! ☄️ You relate? ☄️ I have a new group where we talk about stuff like this and lots more. Join…