Self-Expectations – if they never turn off, they can f*** you up!

Self-Expectations – if they never turn off, they can f*** you up!

Questions for thought… 馃憠 Does driving yourself as hard as you do, as consistently that you do it, actually helping you? 鉁岋笍 Do you have a bottomless pit of self-expectations? A standard that no matter how hard you try, you’ll never live up to? 馃え Do you let that part of you lead all the time? 馃槴 Have you noticed how much of a mental, emotional, and physical toll that takes on you and your loved ones? 馃 Might it be good, and a relief, to take your foot off the gas for a bit, and ENJOY yourself and your…

When is enough, enough?

When is enough, enough?

How long must you endure the suffering before you decide enough is enough? For me in my marriage, it was over 15 years. It didn’t NEED to take that long, but I guess I just had an incredibly high tolerance for inner pain and suffering, until I finally had enough… and decided to take full responsibility for my marriage being exactly the way I want it to be. And low and behold, when I became the person I always wanted to be in the relationship, everything changed! The questions for you to grapple with… 馃 How long do YOU want…

The four phases of mastery… and the long road to 鈥済etting there…”

The four phases of mastery… and the long road to 鈥済etting there…”

Information isn’t the problem. Knowledge isn’t either. The answer isn’t in reading another book, or learning another system. When it comes to habit formation, ACTION is where it’s at. What are you doing each day to move closer to being the person you’ve always wanted to be? Are you showing up? The question is, what works FOR YOU? What’s going to get you to the fourth phase of mastery – unconscious competence? For me, the Whole Life Challenge is one of the things I use to keep myself on track. In spite of the fact that I’ve been the Challenge…

Are you in RESISTANCE? Here鈥檚 how to tell if you are.

Are you in RESISTANCE? Here鈥檚 how to tell if you are.

Resistance is the thing that we do to avoid being outside of our comfort zone. We don’t necessarily do it consciously. Here’s what Steven Pressfield says about it… “Resistance is an impartial force of nature, like gravity and the laws of thermodynamics. Resistance is clever. It knows if it personalizes its manifestations, it can deceive us and slip past our defenses.” There are 12 indicators – any of which can mean you’re in resistance of something you say you really want. Some of them are pretty innocuous, even reasonable (doesn’t everyone have no time, or forget?) But don’t kid yourself……

vi路tal路ize /藞v墨dl藢墨z/ (v.) give strength and energy to

vi路tal路ize /藞v墨dl藢墨z/ (v.) give strength and energy to

Just started a new private group in Facebook. Actually it’s not an entirely “new” group. It’s my meditation group with a new “skin”. And for me, VITALIZE really speaks volumes. From it’s definition “to give strength and energy to”, to the way it sounds, and the feeling it creates inside when I hear it. It covers everything. The meditationin the group has been wonderful… It’s a big part of the whole picture, but part, nonetheless. So this is a place for a bigger, broader conversation – about life and all it’s challenges… and about rising… the journey… and moving through…

On Overthinking

On Overthinking

Ever have the experience that the answer you’re looking for is right in front of your face, but you just can’t see it? For me, it’s usually best to figure out how to lighten the fuck up… let my inner light shine rather than smothering it with a shit-ton of thoughts and complications. KISS – Keep it simple, stupid

Courage To Be Your Best Self

Courage To Be Your Best Self

I’ve been on a FB Live roll lately… and it’s because I’ve been pushing myself outside of my comfort zone… to play it small, hide, be victimized by imposter syndrome, cave in to my fears of not being good enough. And each time I do it, I remove one little brick from the wall that is my ego that has taken me 50 years to build. So I’m going to keep doing it… one brick at a time. One piece of evidence a day that proves to myself that I AM enough, I CAN make a difference, I AM worthy….

If you aren鈥檛 staying in the moment, you are leaving it.

If you aren鈥檛 staying in the moment, you are leaving it.

Had a revelation this morning. During my morning meditation in my Vitalize group(link in bio), I read “the thought of the day”, upon which I pontificate during the guided part of the meditation. The thought today was “if you aren’t staying in the moment, you are leaving it.” And, well… leaving the moment IS the point… not getting stuck in what is now the past by staying in the moment. It’s a little crazy, this talk about time, but I find it fascinating, deep, and a great path toward ultimately finding freedom. 馃馃し鈥嶁檧锔忦煠封嶁檪锔忦煠 What do you think? Stay in the…

Detach from the outcome to get more of what you want.

Detach from the outcome to get more of what you want.

This is my story about how I wound up getting the COVID vaccine on Sunday. I was totally detached from the outcome. Perhaps this way of thinking can help you in those areas of your life where you’re stuck, feeling trapped, and not experiencing true freedom. 馃挮馃挮 Where might you experience more emotional freedom by letting go of the outcome? 馃憠馃憠 Join my private FB group. facebook.com/groups/vitalizeforfreedom

GET INTO THE GAME!

GET INTO THE GAME!

Remember what it was like to be a kid? Everything was new… life was an adventure… and you were in it to explore, learn, be curious, all while having fun in the process. Do have anything in your life today that feels that way? Because if you don’t, the I would suggest that you’re not “in the arena”. If you want to feel alive, you’ve got to get off the sidelines and get on the dance floor. Whether that means literally or otherwise. Find something that interests you, and get super curious… and whatever you do, let go of your…

No Productivity Tool or App Will Help This

No Productivity Tool or App Will Help This

You want to be more productive? Here’s the truth… the latest and greatest app, system, or program won’t help without something else in place. Trust me, I’ve tried them all. It’s not that a new system or app is bad or wrong or doesn’t have a good idea for a new, fresh approach. If you’re suffering from a lack of success or productivity around getting the things done that you know need to be done, the solution is not “out there” somewhere. And the problem is also not out there somewhere. The problem AND solution are both “inside of you”….

What are the 3 most important questions you can ask yourself every day?

What are the 3 most important questions you can ask yourself every day?

Who are you? Where are you going? Why are you going there? Does it get any simpler than that? Simple, yes. Easy, no. But practicing answering these questions every day will lead you down a path to self-mastery and personal leadership that will elevate your game, inspire those around you, and create a new version of you that will transform your life. 鉂o笍 馃憠 So… how about it… Who are you? Where are you going? Why are you going there?

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