Trusting yourself with your ability to solve problems, make decisions, create solutions, and find your own way is an important leadership skill. Just as important is your willingness to ask for help, sharing vulnerably when you’re stuck, needing direction and wanting to lean on other for support. The question becomes then, when do you lean into your personal leadership and trust yourself, and when do you ask for help? 👉👉 Got a situation where you’re struggling with the same thing? Share in comments, or send me a DM. . . . . #askforhelp #trustyourself #anxietysufferer #mentalhelp #itsallinthemind #anxietyhealing #breakingcycles #powerofyou…
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“Ordinary” gratitude
I’ve spoken to a lot of people who struggle with gratitude – how to feel it, how to express it, what to be grateful for, how to find it in just the ordinary. One of the things I’ve heard from people who have lost children or parents to death at an early age is that it’s not the big, grandiose things that they miss… it’s the little, ordinary nothings, the things that occur when you’re not really paying full attention, things that they do that seem totally insignificant. Today I got a glimpse of feeling “ordinary” gratitude… for a nothingness…
On being Anti needy part 2
On being Anti-needy – part 2 It’s one thing to be anti-needy (or free from the trap of codependency), it’s quite another to allow your desire to “be okay with anything” to have you not establish healthy physical, mental and emotional boundaries for yourself. Be anti-needy, but do it with healthy boundaries. . . . . #developyourinnerjedi #emotionalintelligencecoach #leadershipmindset #lifecoachtraining #changeyourperception #highperformancecoach #consciousmind #mentalhealthfirstaid #selfdevelopement #selfimprove #emotionalawareness #mentalcoaching #settingboundaries #leadershipmatters #couragetochange #achievegreatness #forwardthinking #createyourownreality #overcomeobstacles #selfactualization #youhavethepower #itstartswithyou #embraceit #personalgrowthjourney #embracechange #empoweryourself #dontbeafraid #ownyourlife #focusonyourself #selfgrowth
On being anti needy and developing self trust
Are you needy? Do you need someone to behave a certain way to ensure you are okay? Do you have expectations of a conversation going a certain way… and when it doesn’t, you find yourself upset about it? The true master doesn’t wait for someone else to change so that he/she can be okay. No, the Jedi develops his/her anti-neediness… so that no matter how someone else acts in his/her presence, he/she is okay with it. And if they do get triggered by something someone else says or does, instead of getting upset, that Jedi master looks at it as…
Letting go of judgment, seeing the loving essence
This is a big one for me… letting go of the judgment and seeing the loving essence. Judgment has created such big ruts in my memory – emotional, mental, and spiritual ruts. And the ruts are deepest when it comes to those who I’m closest to – parents, aunt, sister, wife. The rut of judgment is like a well-worn pair of jeans… comfy, easy, known, and easy to just put on out of habit. But when faced with the question, “What would love do?”, it creates energetic dissonance. I KNOW that staying in the rut of judgment won’t get me…
Slowing down to speed up
Where are you going? Why are you in such a hurry? What’s the rush? These are questions I started asking myself. I’m now over 50 and I’m seeing things a lot differently than I have in the past. The hurry-up, high-achiever mindset has served me well up until now, but it comes with costs. This mindset uses me… seduces me into thinking that in order to win in life, I must keep accumulating more: awards and accolades, money, respect from others, praise, friendships, likes, views, clients, knowledge, degrees, agreement from others, “rightness”. It has me think that the answers I…
What if you’re only halfway there?
What if you’re only halfway there? How do you know if you’re only halfway there? When is it time to turn around? How much fuel, energy, and endurance will you need for the return trip? Have you left enough energy in the tank to keep going? What if the last 5 years of your life have been in preparation for the success that’s to come in the next 5? Have you set yourself up with the nourishment, supplies, and stamina you’ll need for what’s to come? When you’re out on the trail on a very hot, long, and difficult mountain…
Replacing inner “againstness” with inner alignment
Replacing inner “againstness” with inner alignment Our world and culture is built around the concept of being right. And when you’re focused on being right, you are focused on being against anything that is not in agreement with your view of life and reality. Sometimes it even means being against life itself. And here’s the thing… that mindset NEVER creates peace or alignment. In fact, quite the opposite. ✋ ✋ Where do you see this mindset pervading your life and causing you inner strife? 🤔 🤔 Where could you use more alignment?
Negative inputs lead to a cascade of negative thoughts and feelings
GUARD THE GATE. What gate? The gate to your mind. What goes in becomes your reality. Are you paying attention to what’s going in? What is their tone, subject, and intention? Is that what you want going in there? If it’s not, put a stop to it. YOU HAVE THE POWER. Join me in a news media detox. If you’re suffering in your life in ANY way, you owe it to yourself to give it a try.
Choose what you put your attention on wisely
Where are you putting your attention? What do you choose to look at and see? Where do you allow your mind to wander? What do you allow it to think about? If you spend time watching mainstream media or reading the news it’s not a stretch to say that by doing so, you’re allowing your mind to wander about, looking at and looking for doubt, despair, insecurity, worry, fear, negativity, judgment. Because that’s what the news uses to get us to pay attention… negative news sells. 🚨 Do yourself a favor… go on a news media detox… WITH ME!
The importance of developing Self Trust
If you’re experiencing any sort of upset, worry, anxiety, fear, helplessness, or a case of the “shoulds”, there is a great chance, like 100%, that you have moved out of both self-trust and life-trust. I get it. It’s incredibly painful to feel this way… to feel stuck or trapped in whatever it is… relationship, job, family, situation with no way out. It feels like it’s never going to end, or get better. But I can tell you from experience that the answer does not lie in changing your circumstances. Nope… the real issue isn’t the situation itself… it’s in the…
Invisible Warfare
Invisible Warfare Whether you know it or not, you are an emotion collector. All the emotions you experience in your life as you go through it collect inside of you… and most of the time, with no release valve. Once you’ve accumulated enough pain, anger, frustration, irritation, or upset, you’re full… you’ve got no additional room to store any more of these negative emotions. So what happens? You become a ticking time bomb… anything can set you off… and you’ll go off on anyone for just about anything. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, colleague, someone you love, even…